Let Me Slip Into Something A Little Less Comfortable

ann tagonist

In our world, “sex” means fucking. It means a man inserting his penis into a woman’s vagina until he ejaculates. After the man ejaculates, the sex is finished. Anything that precedes the man putting his penis into the woman’s vagina is referred to as “foreplay” and anything that happens after the man has ejaculated and is no longer physically able to penetrate the woman with his penis, is “afterplay.” So, for women, “having sex” is being vaginally penetrated by a man’s penis. Women are expected to “have sex” – or PIV – throughout most of their lives and aren’t really offered any alternatives. If they want to be in a relationship with a man, that man is going to expect sex and PIV is sex.

It is in this context that girls grow up so… let’s talk about sex.

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QotD: “They do it because they learned it.”

Anti-Porn Feminists

People say, “Oh, well, pornography – that’s for masturbation, nobody can get hurt that way.” But orgasm is a very serious reward, isn’t it? Think of Pavlov’s little dogs, right? They don’t just think about salivating; they salivate. They do it because they learned it. Period. Now think about pornography. The dehumanization is a basic part of the content of all pornography without exception. Pornography in this country in the last ten years has become increasingly violent by every measure, including Playboy, including all the stuff you take for granted; and every single orgasm is a reward for believing that material, absorbing that material, responding to that value system: having a sexual response to stuff that makes women inferior, subhuman.

Andrea Dworkin, Feminism: An Agenda, 1983

Found via the Bewilderness

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QotD: “Radical feminism does not share goals with the religious right”

Anti-Porn Feminists

You hear this lie crop up again and again, so often that it’s become a thought-terminating cliche: if radical feminism shares goals (like abolishing pornography and sex work) with the religious right, doesn’t that make their ideologies one and the same?

It’s used to shut down all feminist conversations about the harms of the pornography industry by buying into the lie that the only manifestation of patriarchal sexual values is puritanical. It also contains a lie within itself, by drawing a false equivalence between the movements based on their “goals” by naming something that isn’t the goal of either movement.

The “goal,” or ultimate end of radical feminist thought and action is the dismantling of oppressive power structures that exist to subjugate women as a class in order to liberate those women. The goal of religious conservatism is to prop up, reinforce, and otherwise maintain those same oppressive power…

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New York Times “Room For Debate” ? No Room for Women and Lesbians

GenderTrender

You will seldom see a more sobering example of the utter disrespect, silencing, censorship and complete removal of women and lesbian representation from public discourse regarding our rights as human beings than you will from the New York Times this evening.

The Times has initiated a male-only “debate” about the impact of attaching the transgender politic (which promotes and codifies noxious social sex roles and sex stereotypes against women) onto the lesbian and gay rights movement. Eliminated from this debate are the women and lesbians whose rights are directly at odds with this movement.

The New York Times culled ALL women from this discussion. They invited six men: four gay, and two male genderists (one gay: drag queen Laverne Cox from RuPaul’s “Drag Race”), and one straight (explicitly anti-lesbian activist Susan Stryker, who has campaigned to outlaw lesbian public gatherings, organizations and activism on the basis that they exclude men)…

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New York Times “Room For Debate” ? No Room for Women and Lesbians

GenderTrender

You will seldom see a more sobering example of the utter disrespect, silencing, censorship and complete removal of women and lesbian representation from public discourse regarding our rights as human beings than you will from the New York Times this evening.

The Times has initiated a male-only “debate” about the impact of attaching the transgender politic (which promotes and codifies noxious social sex roles and sex stereotypes against women) onto the lesbian and gay rights movement. Eliminated from this debate are the women and lesbians whose rights are directly at odds with this movement.

The New York Times culled ALL women from this discussion. They invited six men: four gay, and two male genderists (one gay: drag queen Laverne Cox from RuPaul’s “Drag Race”), and one straight (explicitly anti-lesbian activist Susan Stryker, who has campaigned to outlaw lesbian public gatherings, organizations and activism on the basis that they exclude men)…

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What do you do…?

What do you do

When one prominent person in your community is constantly telling vicious lies in order to turn people against you and the work you do for women’s liberation?

When this person publishes these lies in the public domain, and has so much sway that people start to believe them?

When this adversely affects the work you do to promote liberation for women?

When these lies start to include people you care about,  just because they stood up for you?

When dignified silence doesn’t work any more….?